Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome can be a holdback for many of us in life and business. Have you ever had any of these feelings:
Why would people listen to ME?
I don’t know what I’m talking about. There are better people out there that they could be working with.
I’m a fraud.
No one cares what I have to say.
I’m not important.
I’m not good enough.
I have no idea what I’m actually doing.
I’m too new, or too young, or too old.
It’s already been done, by someone smarter/better/cooler than me
You may be battling imposter syndrome if you’re suffering from:
Feelings of being insecure
Having anxiety
Not feeling good enough
Fear of judgment
Doubting yourself
Lack of confidence
So, how do you get this feeling of being an imposter out of your life? We break it down and share our tips for kicking out the imposter in this episode!
As businesswomen and podcast hosts, these feelings creep in for us both far too often! We are using our voice to share our motherhood experiences in hopes to relate to others. But, the question of why would they care what we have to say, I'm not good enough, and basically, everything else on the list above always creeps in. We are constantly battling with the feelings of not being good enough and questioning ourselves. That sucks, doesn’t it? But, hard as it can be, it doesn't have to be that way!!
Part of being a Boss Lady is believing in yourself… Even if you feel others don't believe in you. There is room for everyone at the table, and you may not see it now, but your unique experience makes what you have to offer different than anything that's been done before! Read that again…
Stop comparing yourself to others and start realizing that as long as you stay authentic and true to who you are, no one can provide what YOU have to give!
Try these simple phrases to reframe your thinking:
“I don’t belong here” -- I belong everywhere, always
“My opinion doesn’t matter” -- The world needs my unique voice “I’m not cool/good/smart enough” -- You are always enough and fear doesn’t change that
“Everything has been done already” -- The world needs your unique touch
Visualize success -- No dream is too big! And there is no reason why YOU can’t be the one to accomplish the thing
Get out of your head -- You are your biggest critic. Stop being so hard on yourself and you will shine.
Know you don’t have to be perfect-- Social media has a way of making us think everyone else has their shit together and life is perfect. You will never be perfect (trust me, I try)... but you don’t have to be.
Keep learning -- Sometimes the imposter syndrome can sneak in because we don’t feel confident or smart enough. Get ahead of that feeling by staying open-minded and grow.
Make a list of successful people in your field that you can relate to -- If they can do it YOU can do it! Finding relatable people will help make you feel less alone and provide confidence to go for it! Just beware of the comparing monster!
Get out of your comfort zone -- You will never grow if you don’t put yourself out there.
Remember you’re human - it’s normal and OK to not know everything.
Be realistic - manage your expectations sensibly to avoid disappointment.
Stop making excuses - see your success and understand the reasons you have achieved it. Luck didn’t get you there, YOU did.
Accept failure- accept that sometimes you will fail and it is OK.
You are not an imposter! You are amazing and the world needs what you have to offer! We can’t wait to see what you do!
“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.” -James M Barrie
If you are battling with imposter syndrome please send us a message. We would love to talk you through it and offer more tips on how we battle the annoying feelings ourselves.
xo